Beautiful to many, ugly to's all in your perception

Beautiful to many, ugly to some…….it’s all in your perception

I have noticed how I perceive the world to be better, kinder, and more compassionate than some of my friends and family. It’s not that I am blind to the fact that bad things happen in this world, some bad things have happened to me and people I know. I think it’s that I don’t expect bad things or look for them, if they happen I experience them and then I continue on my path.

Recently as I was boarding a flight the attendant asked us not to sit in the front row, she was holding it for a disabled passenger that had not arrived yet. I found my way to a window seat a few rows back. A man sat down in the aisle seat of the same row, as he was getting settled in he complained about what good is it to have business select if you can’t pick the best available seat. I felt compassion for this man that he was unable to see that a very slight inconvenience for us would make the world of difference for someone who was wheelchair bound. As they closed the door to the plane the person the front row was saved for never showed up. My neighbor then commented again, slightly more peeved than before, that the supposed person never showed up. I suggested to him that he could surely sit there since the door was closed, he quickly declined. I found it extremely interesting that he was so preoccupied by this situation yet would not take advantage of sitting where he seemed to want to when the opportunity presented.

I let that thought pass as do many fleeting thoughts of observation I experience each day. So I went back to reading the newspaper, once I finished it I placed it in the seat between us, I noticed my new airplane neighbor was looking at it, trying to read it sideways. I said, “please take it I am finished with it”, he was a little apprehensive at first stating something about people not liking other people touching their paper, but he ultimately obliged and read it.

At the end of our flight we heard the usual message to put our seats in the upright position, tray tables locked etc…at that point my new neighbor very awkwardly expressed his gratitude for sharing the newspaper. I was thrilled to see this softening that occurred and silently hoped my small gesture of sharing would help him perceive things differently.

I believe when we perceive things to be a certain way we will look for evidence to support our belief. By that I mean, if you believe the world is full of selfish or vicious people you will unconsciously look for this kind of individual to support your way of thinking. I also believe you will attract this kind of person to you. Some people are uncomfortable with thinking in terms of the energy waves you emit will attract similar energy waves to you, I do happen to believe that, but let’s look at it another way. If you are a snarky or negative person and you see someone who perhaps offers a compassionate explanation of a situation that vexed you, how do you feel about that? Many “negative nelly-like” people will discount the positive person and find someone who will commiserate and agree with them and their negative line of thinking. Have you heard of the saying “misery loves company”?

I see this happening all the time. Does this mean I think every bad thing that happens people have attracted it, no, that is not what I am saying. However, I think we all know people who are consistently steeped in drama, conflict or misery. My husband knew a man who had so many lawsuits going on that his attorney maintained a separate file cabinet just for his cases. Perhaps that is an extreme example but I think you understand who I am talking about.

Albert Einstein is credited with saying something to the effect that we can live our life thinking nothing is a miracle or that everything is a miracle, this is a testament to perception and perception is our choice.

Remember dear readers the choice is yours how you choose to perceive your world, just take your cue from Dr. Suess:

“In my world, everyone’s a pony and they all eat rainbows and poop butterflies!”
― Dr. Suess

About itrustmyjourney

My name is Marsia I am a wife, mother, sister, daughter, friend and engineer. I have been journeying for awhile and decided to created this blog as an extension of my journaling and really as my therapy. I call my blog I trust my journey because that mindset has been such a comfort for me. The landscape of my life has changed pretty dramatically over the past year. All this turbulence in my life has really given me the opportunity to recognize where I need to focus energy and truly understand my purpose here. My purpose is compassion and joy. If my words have inspired compassion or joy please share them with me dear reader.

Posted on January 13, 2013, in Life, Spiritual Journey and tagged , , , , , , . Bookmark the permalink. 2 Comments.

  1. Great post. People who see a world steeped in negativity so need love and they push it away. Very sad to watch. I know how baren I feel when I pop into a negative state. But how grateful I am that I can watch myself doing so.


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